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Good morning,
Forty-three years into a marriage, there are a few basic questions I ask on repeat. Pizza or chicken tonight? Does this outfit work? Or the classic: What do you want to watch? And without fail, my dutiful husband glances at me with a look of equal parts love and self-preservation and says:
Is this a trap?
He's not wrong to ask. Because sometimes it is.
The point was never really the pizza. It was whether he'd get to the right answer on his own. I already knew what I wanted. And after enough years together, he knows the difference between a question and a test. Most of the time.
But the traps that cost us something usually aren't the ones about what to watch on Netflix. That kind of back-and-forth is almost sweet.
The traps that cost us are the ones that arrive disguised as something else. A medical bill that shows up uninvited designed to make you feel small—like you missed something. Like questioning it would be rude. A dash of Himalayan pink salt that wellness culture handed you, along with a fairy tale about ancient seabeds. Oh, and leaving out the part about lead. Or trying to talk to an adult child who used to be your easiest conversation … and suddenly isn’t.
This week, we’re calling it out.
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BRAIN AND BODY
The Truth About Fancy Salt
BY WENDEE NICOLE
You swapped your iodized salt for a $14 shaker of something "cleaner." More natural. More minerals. Even more wellness. Except no one mentioned the lead, or the iodine you just cut out, or the fact that this entire shift may be quietly undoing one of the most successful public health interventions of the last century. Women are now paying more for less protection, and in some cases, dangerous exposure. The story we were sold sounds good. The reality, not so much.
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The Medical Bill Trap No One Warns You About
BY JOANNE HELPERIN
Your latest medical bill shows up. It's a mess. You assume you did something wrong. You didn't. The system spits out a twisted maze of insurers, providers, and fine print, and it's designed to make you feel confused and too polite to push back. Here's how to stop paying what you don't owe. READ MORE
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LIFE
BY DR. GAYLE MACBRIDE
When your adult child draws a line, the instinct is to chase them, over explain, and smooth it over before it gets bigger. The third and final piece in our boundaries series looks at that moment and why what feels natural isn’t always what keeps the relationship intact. READ MORE
Note: Here are Parts 1 and 2 of this series in case you missed them.
Part 1: When Boundaries Feel Like Rejection
Part 2: The Parenting Paradox
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TAKE NOTE
Timely and worth your attention.
✈️ The FAA just published a list of 150+ airport "hot spots"—areas with a history of runway safety-related problems. This comes days after an Air Canada Express flight collided with a fire truck at LaGuardia, killing both pilots. Last year alone there were more than 1,600 runway incidents recorded across the U.S. JFK, Newark, O'Hare, Atlanta, and SFO are all on the list. Worth knowing before your next flight.
📻 CBS News Radio is signing off after 97 years. Walter Cronkite's voice steadied a nation through assassinations and moon landings. Edward R. Murrow reported from London rooftops during the Nazi bombing. Now Bari Weiss is the one delivering the news to staff that it's over. May 22 is the last broadcast. Dan Rather said it best: "It's another piece of America that is gone." He's not wrong.
💊 If you or someone you love has been cycling through topical treatments for psoriasis and getting nowhere, the FDA just approved ICOTYDE—a once-daily pill, not an injection. Psoriasis affects 8 million Americans, and for women, the second peak hits right in our 50s and 60s. This is the first of its kind to block the immune receptor driving the condition. In trials, 70 percent of patients achieved clear or near-clear skin. That's not a small number.
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HUMOR
BY ABBY HEUGEL
You can’t just buy something anymore. You have to "subscribe and save." Eye drops come with a loyalty program. Your appliances want your email. And canceling anything feels like entering a bureaucratic maze with no exit. When did ownership turn into a relationship with your toaster? READ MORE
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READER SPOTLIGHT
“I’m regularly asked why I ‘don’t just go and do the things I want to do.’ The answer is simple: I don’t enjoy any of them half as much if I don’t have someone there to chat with. Even simple people-watching is much less enjoyable without the game of ‘who do you think they are, or what do you think they’re here for?’ I just enjoy everything so much more when it’s a shared experience.” — Joan on For Me, Solo Travel Is Lonely—and Sad Want to be featured next? Comment on your favorite piece—we read them all.
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