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Your insider edit of what’s truly worth it—and what’s simply good enough.
Welcome to Good Enough—for women who’ve finally asked the question:
Wait … why am I trying this hard?
Somewhere between careers, families, aging parents, relationships, reinvention—and the minor humiliation of reading a menu in soft lighting—we're opting out of the performance.
Good enough isn’t mediocrity.
It’s discernment.
It’s taste.
It’s choosing what matters—and leaving the rest behind.
Each week, you’ll get a sharp edit of what actually helps: shortcuts, small luxuries, smart swaps, and curated recommendations that make life easier, better, and more interesting.
You’re here. We’re here.
That’s more than good enough.
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Midlife Math: The Subtraction Method
Why have millions of women snapped to attention around Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” and Melani Sanders’ “We Do Not Care” in what feels like five minutes flat?
Two words. Four words. Clipped, almost blunt.
No 300-page manual. No therapy couch. No one explaining our lives back to us.
Simply: This stays. That goes.
These slogans aren’t nuanced. And that’s exactly why they work.
At this stage of life, most of us aren’t confused. We’re exhausted. We know what’s breaking us. What we need is a clean rule that makes it easier to cut the extra—people-pleasing, over-functioning, gold-star chasing—without overthinking it to death until we talk ourselves back into martyrdom.
“Let them.”
“We do not care.”
That’s subtraction in shorthand.
Obviously, this isn't the whole journey, but it’s a place to start. Let's name what doesn’t deserve our time, energy, or anxiety so the math of midlife gets simpler. That's the edit.
—Susan
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The Bridgerton Effect
On friendship that has survived the fire.
"I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship." — Louisa May Alcott, Little Women, 1868.
But here's what Alcott didn't quite say: The hardest part is finding the woman who stays in the boat with you, and doesn’t make you explain, again, why you’re like this.
Queen Charlotte and Lady Danbury didn't arrive at that final scene in Bridgerton Season 4 through ease. It took decades of friction, loyalty, disagreement, silence, and the particular shorthand that only develops when two women have watched each other at their worst. That look across the room? You know it. If you have one woman you can exchange it with, you’re already ahead of the game.
Start with The Fountain of St. James Court by Sena Jeter Naslund—two women across centuries, the art they make, and the lives they survive. Light a Diptyque Baies candle—berries scented, just right for a long conversation—and call her. If the conversation deserves more than your phone, write it down. Crane & Co. stationery, and a fountain pen if you’re feeling dramatic (or just tired of typing paragraphs with your thumbs).
Then make the reservation—not for a birthday, not for a milestone. Simply because she exists and you have things to say that deserve someone else doing the cooking. And when dinner is done, rewatch Beaches. Bette Midler and Barbara Hershey. Still the most honest thing Hollywood ever made about female friendship. Or Bridesmaids, if you’d rather laugh. Both serve as reminders that not all love stories come with sex scenes. Some come with history.
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What’s worth your attention this week
🎸 Patti Smith, at 79, was asked what keeps her young in a recent interview. “What makes a person more youthful is not their outward appearance … it’s nourishing that thing. That curiosity.” Maybe the goal isn’t to stay young—it’s to stay curious enough that age doesn’t matter. Her take on living as a creative is uplifting and inspiring.
🎬 Rachel Weisz, at 55, stars in Vladimir, the adaptation of Julia May Jonas’s novel about a woman coming undone—fixated on a younger colleague and the life she thought she understood. It’s sharp, uncomfortable, and part of a growing wave of stories willing to say the quiet part out loud about desire and power in midlife. This dropped earlier this month on Netflix.
🎤 Karina Longworth’s You Must Remember This podcast is the secret history of Hollywood—old-school stars, buried scandals, and the women the industry quietly wrote out. It’s smart, obsessive, and just noir enough to remind you how much of that system is still shaping what we watch now. You can find it on Apple here.
💔 Strangers by Belle Burden—Babe Paley’s granddaughter—is a memoir about the quiet collapse of a marriage and the disorienting realization that the person beside you may never have been who you thought. It’s intimate, unsettling, and less about the breakup than what comes after: How women rethink loyalty, partnership, and what a second act actually requires.
✨ The 333 Collective, founded by Diana Dunbar Place, is a community of women who are very much not done. Thoughtful, engaged, and serious about what comes next, it’s less networking and more real conversation—guided by Dunbar with a kind of grace, clarity, and steadiness that’s rare. If you're looking to expand your circle, this could be for you.
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Better. Easier. Done.
A dupe from Susan
Bottega makes anything and I’m in. Take these iconic earrings—the styling, the weight, the confidence—it’s Italian design doing what it does best. These original chunky tear drop babies retail for $880. I own them. I love them. But then I found a pair that does the same job—and might actually be better. Lighter, more comfortable, and—here’s the part that matters—$13. Not a typo.
This is the kind of swap that makes no sense not to make. You'll wear them constantly and they're great for traveling.
A hack from Abby
If you've ever packed with care and intention only to tear your suitcase apart looking for your one bra, one shoe, one anything—packing cubes feel like self-respect.
They don't shrink your wardrobe or turn you into a minimalist. They keep your life sorted: outfits together, underwear contained, workout clothes clustered like the threat they are. Mid-trip, you lift out one cube instead of detonating the entire bag and repacking on the floor like a rabid raccoon.
Pack smarter. Not harder.
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⌨️ This newsletter was written by Susan Dabbar, Abby Heugel, and Cat Green.
🛍️ Some links in this newsletter are affiliate or sponsored links. If you buy something we recommend, we may earn a small commission—at no extra cost to you. Every product is independently selected and obsessed over by our team.
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