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May 07 • 4 min read

Did we get it wrong?


THIS WEEK: MOTHER'S DAY • BOOK CLUB DRAMA • WEDDING SEASON


THURSDAY • MAY 7 • 2026


Good morning,

My grandson turned one this week. We celebrated in Central Park on a green checkered picnic blanket with friends and family. He stared at the big blue number-one candle on his very first cupcake like it was the most extraordinary thing he had ever seen. Which, at one, it might be. He's bright and wide open to the world. Watching him is pure joy.

It also did something I wasn't expecting.

Our call for Mother's Day submissions was answered. Our readers wrote in to tell us what they finally understand about their mothers. The notes came from women who finally have the years to see their mothers clearly. She was carrying so much. She never had a chance. She was a person before she was a mother and I never saw it.

I sat on that blanket and thought about my own mother watching me at one. She had two babies under two by then, with a third not far behind. I tried to imagine what was running through her head. Not the logistics—I understand those now—but the quieter things. What she held. What she set aside. What she never said.

This week, we're publishing what you wrote in. The prompt was harder this year—what you finally understand about the women who raised you. The answers are funny in places and hard in others. A few aren't gentle. We left them in.

Wherever Sunday finds you—adoring, avoiding, missing, untangling, grieving—I hope you recognize yourself somewhere in these stories. You're not the only one still figuring her out.


MOTHER'S DAY 2026

Mother's Day Reckonings: What We Finally Understand About Our Mothers

BY SUSAN DABBAR

We asked a harder question this year. The answers came back tender, uncomfortable, and self-aware in ways the prompt didn't predict. Twenty-eight daughters. One son. What they finally see now.


HUMOR | Book Club Drama Episode 2

Book Club Drama: James

BY JUDY ROTHMAN ROFÉ

Book club is back. New book. New host. New ways to misbehave in a group chat. If last month's meeting prompted an apology to the neighbors, this month's might require an apology to a small mammal. Episode two of six. If you missed last month—start there. If you didn't, the wait was worth it. READ MORE


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Wedding Season Is Calling

As a Guest, Dress Like You Got the Memo

Wedding season is back, and we're here to help. Sometimes wedding dress codes can be confusing to navigate. Here are four pieces that follow our dress code "rules" and actually work—cuts that are made for our shape, fabrics that move with us, and lengths that don't fight us. For your next wedding, read the full dress code and tips below. Because at our age, the goal isn't to disappear. It's to walk in feeling like yourself.

Black Tie Optional

Beach Formal Maxi

Semi-Formal Festive or Garden Midi

Cocktail

THE FULL DRESS CODE GUIDE

Are You a Wedding Guest Diva?

BY SUSAN DABBAR

A wry field guide to wedding guest divas, bad dress-code decisions, and the Facebook fallout nobody thinks the bride will see.


TAKE NOTE

Timely and worth your attention.

🐎 Saturday, Cherie DeVaux, 44, became the first woman to train a Kentucky Derby winner in 152 years. Her horse Golden Tempo went off at 23-1, ran from dead last, and passed the favorite at the wire. Her words after the win: "I'm glad that I can be a representative of all women everywhere, that we can do anything we set our minds to."

🐙 Sally Field, 79, plays a lonely widow who befriends a giant Pacific octopus in Netflix's Remarkably Bright Creatures, a story about love, loss, and finding connection in the most unexpected places—streaming May 8. The novel sat on the NYT bestseller list for 64 weeks because women our age finally got to be the protagonists. The film looks like a must-see.

📺 Kate Hudson, 47, is back as Isla Gordon in Season 2 of Running Point, Mindy Kaling's comedy about the woman running her family's NBA team. Two weeks in, the reviews say Season 2 is sharper than Season 1—90 percent on Rotten Tomatoes. Her brother is home from rehab and parked behind her desk. The brother who never wanted the job is suddenly very comfortable in the chair. Familiar.


READER SPOTLIGHT

“I'm here for it! LOL! I was so proud when I asked my 14-year-old if he had swept like I asked him to and he said, 'Yep, and I put it all under the sofa like you showed me.' LMAO! Whatever works!” — Michelle on Good Enough Housekeeping: Finally, a Magazine That Gets It

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DEAR READER | LIFE

They’ Say Women Over 50 Shouldn’t Wear Bikinis. I Said ‘Watch Me.’

BY CHRISTINA DAVES

She walked onto the beach in her 50s in a bikini, exposed, bracing for the looks. They never came. Here's what it feels like when women stop asking for permission. READ MORE


OUR SHORT LIST

A pen, your hand, and a surprisingly effective anxiety-reducing trick that has nothing to do with writing.

❓ The same ambition building your life might also be burning you out. Five questions to know the difference.

🛒 Grocery store price tags are getting smarter, and possibly more expensive. What digital pricing could mean for your bill.

🏆 Ninety-four percent of women in the C-suite played sports as kids. Not a coincidence—here's what the data shows.

⚱️ We've all been to more funerals than weddings now. Heather Hill, a North Carolina funeral director, on what it's actually like—death calls, makeup, and the strange grace of the work.


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